{"id":1191,"date":"2018-07-03T01:01:29","date_gmt":"2018-07-02T17:01:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/35.247.165.222\/?p=1191"},"modified":"2018-07-03T01:01:29","modified_gmt":"2018-07-02T17:01:29","slug":"5-phrases-you-should-never-use","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/halfhalfparenting.com\/5-phrases-you-should-never-use\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Phrases You Should Never Use"},"content":{"rendered":"

Remember that one time your parents said something that hurt you and it stuck with you forever? And the other time…and that other time? Have you caught yourself saying the same thing to your child? The truth is that we often repeat phrases we grew up hearing, especially the ones we hated most. The human psyche is such that we tend to hurt others the way we were hurt before, often unwittingly. Unfortunately, these phrases hurt our children as much as they hurt us when we were young. Here\u2019s a list of phrases you should never use with your children. <\/span><\/p>\n

5 phrases you should never use as a parent<\/span><\/h1>\n

\u201cWait until Dad gets home!\u201d <\/span><\/h2>\n

Parenting is a team effort. There should never be any instance in which you villainize your partner for the sake of getting your children to follow your instructions. This not only gives your children the idea that your partner is the bad guy \u2014 it can also traumatize your children as they fear your partner\u2019s arrival home. Mom or Dad wouldn\u2019t want to come home to frightened children. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cBecause I said so!\u201d <\/span><\/h2>\n

Of all the phrases you should never use with your children, this one makes you sound like you know best and that your decision is always final. Children need to be okay with having an opinion, so instead, phrase it such<\/a> that they understand where you are coming from and that\u00a0you also appreciate their input. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cDo you think you should watch TV before you\u2019re done with your homework?<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

\u201cDon\u2019t make that face!\u201d<\/span><\/h2>\n

Children cannot help their expressions like we can, and you should never expect them to. Instead, take them aside to ask them what they are feeling and tell them that it is okay to feel that way. Make sure you always have a little debrief after a scolding so that they understand how actions and consequences work. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cWhy can\u2019t you be more like your sister?\u201d<\/span><\/h2>\n

Do yourself and your children a favour and keep the noticing, comparing and evaluating to yourself. Statements that imply a comparison of any sort are phrases you should never use as they can hinder the development of <\/span>strong sibling bonds<\/span><\/a>. Be cautious about verbalizing your observations to avoid making your children think that they have to live up to certain expectations. It\u2019s alright to say, \u2018Look how hard your brother is studying\u2019 \u2014 but leave out the, \u2018Why can\u2019t you do that?\u2019\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cHere, let me help you with that.\u201d<\/span><\/h2>\n

When you take over like this, it can be discouraging for your child. Kids are always motivated to learn, but they give up easily if they think that they\u2019re not good or fast enough. Instead, wait until they ask for help before stepping in. If you see them struggling, try saying \u201cCould you teach me how that works?\u201d and then follow up with a \u201cCan I do it this way?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Remember that one time your parents said something that hurt you and it stuck with you forever? And the other time…and that other time? Have you caught yourself saying the same thing to your child? The truth is that we often repeat phrases we grew up hearing, especially the ones we hated most. The human […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":1193,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[11],"tags":[163,39,448],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/halfhalfparenting.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1191"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/halfhalfparenting.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/halfhalfparenting.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/halfhalfparenting.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/halfhalfparenting.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1191"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/halfhalfparenting.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1191\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/halfhalfparenting.com\/wp-json\/"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/halfhalfparenting.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1191"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/halfhalfparenting.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1191"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/halfhalfparenting.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1191"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}