{"id":1240,"date":"2018-10-19T11:42:18","date_gmt":"2018-10-19T03:42:18","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/35.247.165.222\/?p=1240"},"modified":"2018-10-19T11:42:18","modified_gmt":"2018-10-19T03:42:18","slug":"divorce-adjusting","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/halfhalfparenting.com\/divorce-adjusting\/","title":{"rendered":"Parenting Through Divorce 4 of 4 : Adjusting to a New Lifestyle"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In this last article of our <\/span><a href=\"http:\/\/35.247.165.222\/parenting-through-a-divorce-part-1-of-4\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">four-part series<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, we tackle the challenges of adjusting to the new lifestyle that comes after a divorce while doing your best to be a parents. <\/span><\/p>\n<h1><b>Adjusting to the new living situation<\/b><\/h1>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Divorce will be a big change to everyone in the family, so you should make sure there is a smooth transition as much as possible. Adjusting to a new living arrangement should be gradual, such that it doesn\u2019t come as too much of a shock to your children. There are several types of living situations to consider, including:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>One parent having sole custody<\/li>\n<li>Both parents having shared legal and physical custody<\/li>\n<li>Joint custody in which one parent has a \u2018tie-breaker\u2019 role in certain decision such as medical or educational arrangements<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Deciding which one is right for your kids will not be easy, but you have to remember to work as a team for the sake of your children. Although some children may be used to spending most of their time with one parent in comparison with the other, most children need the stability and comfort of having one home, and visiting the other parent frequently. In some cases, both parents may choose to continue living in the same house but this should generally be avoided, although it does work with a small percentage of divorced parents. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Whatever you decide, your children\u2019s needs must come first, and their feelings must be considered when adjusting to a new lifestyle. Whether you are making decisions for Birthday parties, holiday seasons or vacations, make sure you consider is best for your children first. While you should make the effort to hear about your children\u2019s feelings, it is important that you make the final decisions yourselves and do not ask your children to choose. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You must be prepared for any child to try to \u2018take sides\u2019. If this happens, do not take it personally, as hard as this may be. Keep to the agreed schedule when adjusting to the new lifestyle so that your children will know that this is what they have to get used to. <\/span><\/p>\n<h1><b>Being a Parent Under Pressure<\/b><\/h1>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Remember that you are both still parents. Routines and discipline strategies stay the same, so do not make adjustments to bedtimes, rules or study schedules, especially with the younger ones. Although you may not be able to enforce rules in your ex\u2019s home, make sure you do in your home. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A divorce is a major crises for everyone in the family, but if you both work together as parents and be civil about things, adjusting to the new lifestyle can be easier to handle that you might expect. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tips<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><b>Get professional help to deal with your own painful feelings. <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your children will adjust better if you show them how. <\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><b>Be patient with your child and with yourself.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Remember that everyone needs time to heal. <\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><b>Look out for signs of stress.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Consult everyone in your child\u2019s lives, including teachers, doctors, or a therapist for guidance <\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you and your spouse or children need help getting through this tough time, contact <\/span><\/i><a href=\"https:\/\/www.touch.org.sg\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Touch Community Services<\/span><\/i><\/a><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> for support.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In this last article of our four-part series, we tackle the challenges of adjusting to the new lifestyle that comes after a divorce while doing your best to be a parents. 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